I am still looking for better sources of the information most important to me, but I have had some luck with the Wisconsin Longitudinal Study. Just a bit, but some. On question, repeated on different instruments asks how close the respondent feels to his or her spouse. A very few other questions refer to amount of sexual pleasure with a spouse. Taken together, they do give some very limited indications of compatibility. What makes this useful is that there are a number of questions asked the respondent about their spouse, and a few questions in which the spouse give some data about himself or herself. It’s not a lot of information, but it is some, and since it is a longitudinal study, there is some indication about how this changes over time. It will take me a while to make use of the data and I sure wish there was more, but there is enough to get started.
I have had much more luck locating information about jobs. The WLS asked a lot about occupation and job satisfaction. I’ll work with that data as I find time, but for now I am anxious to see if I really can get anything useful out of the limited interpersonal data. — dpw